I awakened from a profoundly encouraging dream. I was at a gathering with a group of people who had gathered in exactly the same way many times. The affection of the group was palpable. The agenda was well established and the event was expertly facilitated, with the perfect balance of keeping the proceedings moving while allowing plenty of time for spontaneity and interaction. As the gathering ended and we formed a circle to say our goodbyes, three guys who brought their guitars broke into the famous Rolling Stones riff, I Used to Love Her. It was light-hearted, hilarious, and capped the evening with a glow of happy camaraderie.
What stood out in the dream was the humor, affection and obvious sense of ease that people felt. The dream was encouraging because I am working to promote housing mixers as a way out of our housing crisis.
I envision mixers at which people learn about housing alternatives and meet with others who are also considering their options. The mixers will take place every month and be supported by social workers or group dynamics professionals who are trained in the new specialty of housing coaching to screen, evaluate, match and coach people to live harmoniously in close proximity to others.
As people gather month after month, they will find others with whom they feel comfortable and alliances will naturally form. As people get to know each other, housing coaches will facilitate the process by spotting potential mismatches and other pitfalls. Even compatible households may have misunderstandings and resentments that could benefit from skilled housing coaching.
Combining households to reduce living expenses is becoming more common. Living with people that you genuinely like can enrich your life and lead to very happy experiences. Choosing from an assortment of people with whom you feel comfortable and, most of all, understood dramatically increases the odds for happy living.
Moving in with family members, although it may seem the obvious choice, is often not the best choice. Being biologically related does not necessarily indicate compatibility and separating from your family in a healthy way is Intro to Adulthood 101.
Home sharing is a growing trend and an opportunity for a happy chapter in your life or one far less than that. Choosing wisely is the first important decision. Attending housing mixers and consulting a trained housing coach increases the odds in your favor.
To find out more about mixers, or to get them going in your community, contact Terry Edlin by phone (312.375.1423) or e-mail (firstname.lastname@example.org).